Silence, Light & Hope…
Silence… When death silenced Jamie, I fell silent, too. A silence… I didn’t understand. A silent intrusion… felt both foreign & serene. (He Stopped Laughing)
Some silence quiets questions. Some silence calms chaos. Some silence honors the sacred. And some silence screams shame. Complicated Shame.
Shame? Shame on me because I didn’t know how hopeless he felt. (Not all of our family felt shame. In fact, Grandma Wanda never did.) But some of us did.
Some silence is welcome. Quieting questions, calming chaos, and honoring the sacred…
The Breaking Silence …
… for the one suffering with hopelessness in its various forms, we acknowledge your anguish. You are NOT alone. If loved ones reach in, please don’t shut them out. We urge you to reach out. Don’t know exactly what to say? Maybe a simple, honest start… “I need help!”? If family and friends are unsure how to help, keep reaching out. Counselors, teachers, clergy, doctors… all prepared to embrace you with help.
We thank educators, the medical, mental health professionals & so many others who work and advocate on your behalf. We thank groups like RemedyLive who are available to you in moments of crisis. Their commitment, work & availability make asking for help more and more accessible. Please reach out for help.
… for those of us who’ve lost someone who maybe never felt hopeless before… yet, struggle with the silenced voice. We may attempt to silence the ever-spinning world to hear that silenced voice again.
How many of us have wrestled with dark shadows in silent shadows? You’re the heart why we’re not remaining silent with our family loss. Testimonies… persevering… gathering… sharing. There is a Living Hope. This Hope anchors our souls with compassion for all you’re facing… whether your grief is fresh or a few years deep already… we know we share something hard… and deep. And we learn to live aware of the daunting shadows of death. But we’re not locked in… in paralyzing fear, doubts, or sadness, either. Living Hope.
… for those who long to love on your hurting people lavishly. Thank you for seeing & hearing our hurt. And thank you for overcoming the awkward… And enduring with us. These are Defining Times. How do we “Rejoice with those who rejoice. Mourn with those who mourn?”
We have to move in close…You know exactly how to celebrate the graduations, the weddings, the baby showers. However, these darker times require a different kind of Breaking Silence. Some times the quieter the voice… the louder the love. Your presence means so much… even if we can’t properly thank you… please lean in & learn to listen… even to the silence.
written by Heidi L. Paulec